Welcome to the Blog of Dr Tom Barber and Dr Sandra Westland, lead therapists and counsellors at Colchester Counselling and Psychotherapy Practice. You will find below a variety of posts about many of the different kind of problems people bring to counselling and therapy. We hope you find some interesting articles that help you, and that you subscribe so you can be the first to receive our new posts.

Self-Harming Isn’t Just Cutting

Johnny Depp, Russell Brand, Lindsay Lohan, and Drew Barrymore are just a few celebrity examples of people who have used self-harming in their past. Self-harm can be shocking for those who find out a friend, loved one or family member does this, and knowing what to do...

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So What Is Love?

In the beginning! Have you ever heard or said, "I can’t stop thinking about them!" Why can those first few weeks of love become so addictive, and obsessive? Love is one of the most studied, but least understood phenomena. However, there is a body of research looking...

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Addiction – Why Don’t You Just Stop It!?

Have you ever wondered why some people can’t stop doing something, even though it’s not good for them? It may be an addiction to smoking, using drugs, excessive drinking, eating or exercising. Have you ever wondered why you can’t change a habit that you really get...

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How to Get Through Life, the Existential Way

How do you guide yourself through the process of your life? Do you make yourself up as you go along, inventing your life story as you want it to be … or do you feed your unconscious mind with knowledge, in order to be guided from the wisdom that comes from the...

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How to Have Better Relationships

Are you the sum total of your relationships? If I asked you who you were, the first likely answer would be who you are in relation to someone else. So, maybe “I am a mother or father, sister or son.” Then you might tell me something about you, to fill in more detail,...

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