Raising Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

Lacking in confidence and having low self-esteem can stop you doing the things you want to do. It can also lead you to ‘faking’ it, and becoming an ‘actor’ in your own life, where you pretend to be confident. In some cases, you may over compensate by being outwardly over-confident, when inside you feel anything but.

So what is Confidence and Self-Esteem?

Confidence is related to action. It’s a belief that you can succeed at something. You can say, “I am confident at public speaking, or I am confident that I can win an argument, or I am confident that I can enjoy scuba diving if I wish to.” It is possible to be confident in one area of your life, such as your career or work perhaps, but be totally under confident about another aspect of your life, such as personal relationships.

Self-esteem is the value you give yourself as having in the world, such as “I am a worthwhile human being”. The quality of esteem tends not to change very much since it is related to a broad sense of value or worth. If you have high self-esteem at work, you probably have it in other areas of your life to.

How Can We Help Build Your Confidence?

In our experience it can be easier to strengthen confidence than self-esteem, however improvements in both are definitely achievable. We can help you build confidence by supporting you in the taking of action, in helping you develop the skills to go outside of your comfort zone. Confidence is about facing challenges and knowing that you will survive, even if things don’t turn out as you wanted them to. Building your confidence happens through mastering tasks you have found daunting.

Gaining in confidence is about knowing the steps you need to take to achieve something, and having the mental techniques to steer you forwards. It’s about gaining the knowledge on how to build your self-belief.

Some schools of thought view that if you tell yourself you are worthy then it will become so. Just look in the mirror and tell yourself, is the advice! But for us, building self-esteem is not simply positive thinking, or pretending you have it, in the hopes that it will become true.

Telling yourself you are worthy is not basing a belief on solid foundations, and actually you know you won’t really believe it, and you know that you’re faking it. What needs to happen is to explore where and when you questioned your worth, and begin to understand a more accurate account of those times.

What makes the difference is to heal the developmental era where this was first born, thus enabling self-esteem to be raised in line with who you are in your life now.

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